Porn Valley- I had a conversation last week with Audrey Hollander. During the course of her marriage to Otto Bauer, Hollander and Bauer had taped nearly 500 hours worth of their bedroom hijinx before they even considered working professionally in porn.

I asked Audrey how it was working with another man the first time.

“I was really confident in my relationship with Otto,” she states. “And before any swapping of ourselves to other people, we laid out boundaries and rules that made us okay and comfortable. I think our trust with each other was so strong and our relationship was so strong that neither one of us had a problem. We had been with other people before, but cameras have never made either one of us feel uncomfortable.”

Hollander recalls her first porn movie as being a Dirty Debutantes where she worked with Ed Powers.

“And then he let Otto do some things that were new to Dirty Debutantes,” Hollander continues. “It was really cool.”

Hollander grew up in Kentucky, describing herself as a really outgoing, happy kid.

“I’ve always been a part of groups and among the groups I’ve always been the leader or co-leader, like the Girl Scouts,” she says. “I really had an all-American youth. My parents are loving and caring and supportive of their children. It was that my whole life.”

Hollander has an older brother by seven years.

“But we were never like buddies because he was always busy with his girlfriends,” she relates. “And he got a girl pregnant really young so he had a family at 17 just turning 18. I was an aunt very early on! But I always had the all-American life of a girl scout. I was a cheerleader. Not only was I a cheerleader in high school and middle school, but for community service I would go to the Salvation Army and the soup kitchens and do community-oriented things. I was a good citizen.”

“I had friends who were partiers and things,” she continues. “It wasn’t like I was trying to be a goddy-good. No, not at all. I like hanging out with people like that. I liked to have all kinds of people- eccentrics- hanging around me. It wasn’t like I was in with one crowd and doing the stereotypical thing.”

“In high school were you ever voted to do a certain thing?”

“I don’t think I ever told Otto this,” she laughs. “Put I was voted most flirtatious. And a few other things I don’t remember.”

Hollander says she can’t even really remember the first time she had sex.

“I drank and I was nervous and scared,” she recalls. “I was, like, let’s skip it and talk about lesbians because that’s where the real sexual experiences are.”

“So the first time with a guy was going through the motions?”

“I just wanted to drink and get it over with,” insists Hollander.

“Were you pressued into it?”

“Sort of,” she replies. “My best friend got around a little bit and she was always promiscuous. But I always saw the relationships between the girls and the guys, between my friends as being a bunch of drama and trouble. And when you played with a girl, you get drunk, fool around, maybe, and then are friends again. There’s not the drama of a relationship, necessarily. You have a friendship that’s sexual on the side. Let’s face it in our youth we all need a little alcohol, sometimes, to make us drop our guards down.”

All this being said, Hollander first had sex at the age of 17.

“My best friend made her ex-boyfriend try it out with me,” she elaborates. “I was uncomfortable. Guys weren’t interesting to me until I met Otto.”

“What was it about Otto?”

“We really just connected,” replies Hollander. “This was a connection I never had with anyone else. We talked forever. Not only did we talk but we fucked constantly. We were both on holiday in Miami. Neither one of us were off looking to get anything out of anyone. In fact I was having dinner with my girlfriend. We were staying with her uncle. We saw these two guys- Otto and his friend walking by- he’s staring. Then they walked back and sat at a table near us. I saw him staring more and so I just waved him over. We hit it off from then on and stayed together from that dinner on.”

“Did you consummate the first night?”

“Yes,” giggles Hollander. “And he also asked me to marry him the first night. He was I want to marry you. There was no ring or any thing because it was the spur of the moment. But I agreed. Eventually after we went to Kentucky to get my parents’ permission and moved all my stuff to New York City, we eventually shopped for rings and were engaged for a year.”

[Otto in fact had a pretty religious background and studied to be an Episcopal priest at one time- we talked about that in another interview and I asked Hollander in this one if she had a similar type background.]

“My dad’s half of the family is so bible belt Baptist it’s ridiculous,” says Hollander. “It’s not a bad life just a very simple one. My family- none of them approve of what I do.”

Asked how they found out, Hollander explains that her mother takes this short cut through “a seedy part of town” to get to where she lives.

“The porn part is a stretch of it,” says Hollander. “So they have billboards and things; and there was like a DVD on the billboard with me. A couple of weeks had gone by and I hadn’t talked to my mom. I said this is weird. Maybe somebody found out- that’s what I figured.”

According to Hollander, what softened the blow somewhat was the fact that was the year she was named Female Performer of the Year.

“My mom wanted to make sure I was doing it willingly and someone wasn’t making me do it,” says Hollander. “Every mother- the first thing they want to imagine- is that someone is making their daughter do it. But when she found out the news that it was a business decision and that I’m not just a hooligan kid that’s lost, trying out drugs and being crazy in LA. No. It’s because I’m trying to be a smart business woman, building a company with my husband and providing a product for the public which is myself. Once my mother had a couple of conversations with me with that understanding, she was alright.

“I don’t get fucked up like a lot of the girls,” states Hollander. “And that’s the stigma the industry has, that the girls are trouble, they’re drug addicts or whatever. I happen to be pretty normal and that helped her deal with it as well as finding out- well, you do porn. At least you’re the best at what you do- this year anyway. I was grateful that the timing went the way it went.”

“You meet Otto in Miami and bring him home to drop all this news on your family that you’re getting married. How did they react to him?”

“I’ve always been a good kid,” Hollander explains. “I didn’t get my driver’s license until I was 18 and I already had a semester of college. They knew I was going to be serious about my life. They said I could always come home if things didn’t work out, but they immediately liked Otto a lot. They saw the genuine love in our relationship, and they never worried.”

Otto and Audrey have been together eight years from the moment they met that night in Miami.

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