The recent Chef Jeff-Nick Manning flare-up https://adultfyi.com/read.aspx?ID=7014 draws a very well argued, well groomed series of comments from Naughty Kitty.

Naughty Kitty writes: If [Chef] Jeff feels the need to make an issue out of Nick’s supposed professional behaviour or lack thereof, because it has supposedly offended the person he claims to love and therefore conflicts with him, then that is fair enough, as long as he realises that he was not present to witness most of the material he has to defend his case, and therefore should not overstep his mark.

However, if Jeff is all about fighting for profesionalism, like he claims, in fact this is one of his main reasons for airing this issue regarding Nick Manning, then he should also exact some professionalism too, otherwise he is a hypocrite who does not play by any rules other than his own, and cannot expect other people to do any different. Harsh as this may sound, I say so only because it serves a valid purpose in the next part of what I have to say.

While what Jeff claimed to believe went down, was indeed unprofessional and definitely deserved to be issued in order to discover what of it was true and therefore wrong, it was still indefinite and hearsay. On the other hand, Jeff making the extra-curricular and unneeded comments regarding Nick Manning being a pussy, and with the entertained suggestion that Nick may have been touched innappropriately by his parents as a child, all of which was said live to a wide audience, is outrightly unprofessional. Technically this is a case of contradiction and innappropriacy based on virtually no regardable grounds.

As a woman and human being, I am against other women or human beings being morally raped by anybody; nobody should be put in a position in which they are being forced to do something they do not wish to, and it is disrespectful for a person to refuse to cease overstepping another’s personal limits, I do not condone it.

However, as people generally are not telepathic, they must indefinitely be informed of another person’s limits by that person, otherwise how else are they to stay within them and therefore not make them feel abused or uncomfortable? There is no way, and short of the victimized person expressing the approach of death or a psychotic break, how else is the accused supposed to know that he or she is doing something he is not supposed to? In a rough sex scene, digging one’s nails into another’s legs to let them know you are uncomfortable with what is going on is not the best way to communicate the word ‘stop’, in fact it is probable to inspire the accused more than anything.

This may have been a simple mistake made by the ‘victim’ of course, given the potential confusion and panic of the situation, but it is not exactly intelligent or justified to blame the accused for this. It should be taken as a lesson that has been learnt from an innopportune and perhaps negative experience. However I find that nobody really deserves blame here, as nobody willingly did anythign wrong as far as the validated information insists.

I do not hate Jeff or Kinzie in any way at all, this is just my individual view upon the situation, I assure you.

Finally, I would like to state that it has been easy for people to lable Nick the loser in this conflict, as well as it has been easy for them to unload a negative response upon him in. Yes Nick Manning is a big guy, yes he was enraged and yes it is easy to lable him the Big Bad Wolf because he intimidated Jeff so much, but at the end of the day, he had every right to be pissed off and he had as much right to say and do what he wanted to in response to everything, as Jeff did initially, only it seems that a lot of people have not pulled Jeff down for reacting and doing things his way in the first place, without thinking of how other peopel might feel, or the consequences.

I doubt Nick would have been so angered if Jeff had called him up to speak to him personally about this, before choosing what he had to say and do live on air, in fact I doubt Nick would even be angry if only Jeff had stuck to the issue he had with Nick on air, and left out the extra -curricular insults.

In any case, it is all over now, and I as well as a lot of people I am sure, are glad about that. I wish Chef Jeff, Kinzie and Nick Manning all the best in the future prospects and endeavours, and the debate made for a very interesting and entertaining show.

Remember people, it is not fair to make Nick the bad guy in all this, as he was just as aggressed as Jeff was when Jeff came to the conclusion that he believed regarding his partner being mistreated.

Thank you for listenning, I just really wanted to give some input here, and speak my own mind on the situation.

Lots of love… -NaughtyKitty

P.S. – I do not condone violence and I am glad that it bever came to blows between Jeff and Nick.