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A subject that’s rarely brought up in the discussion of porn is the family factor. I’m bringing this up because a motivational speaker named Bob Kiser, in an article www.chicagophoenix.com/2013/06/08/porn-acting/ this week, touched on the subject.

Writes Kiser: “People definitely have judgments about porn. In our society, people love to judge and label. They also love to group people together.

“I think the biggest obstacle for families would be the fact that having a porn actor in the family can set the rest of the members up for scrutiny.

“Now I think this can happen with any occupation or activity. A minister’s occupation can define the entire family. The daughter is labeled ‘The Minister’s Daughter’ and then judged accordingly. If members of a porn actor’s family have occupations that are in conflict with porn or its image, that can create obstacles for them. When in a family, sometimes our choices can affect the others’ well being.”

I don’t know the reasons that drive people to porn as a career. If you’re horny, you certainly don’t need this industry to get laid. And from all my times on a porn set, and from all my observations, there’s nothing stimulating about a porn scene to the participants.

For the most part, it’s a mental game for the guy – get erect and hold off busting your nut for as long as possible. That’s no fun. And the girl, well, she’s paid to act satisfied. A relationship with a sugar daddy gives you the same benefits. Besides that, try locking yourself into some of porn’s excruciating lumbar-challenging positions for any length of time.

The money? Despite what you’re read about the cash Farrah Abraham supposedly got, there’s nothing in porn any more for the average Joe regardless of the lies and goofy statistics you’re being fed.

The risk of communicable disease and HIV? Yeah, that’s a reason to perform in sex scenes. We can go on and on with this, but it gets back to Kiser’s argument of how all this affects the family.

I’m sure some performers get into the business because they’ve had shitty relationships with their folks and this is pay back time.

Maybe I’m talking like a fuddy-duddy, but is humiliating your people any compelling reason to be doing this? And if you love your family, why would you expose them to societal backlash unless you’re a selfish, self-centered bastard?

Yeah, I’ve read all the interviews with porn stars saying how cool their families are about their choices of career. Really? Truth be told, your family wants to mangle you for what you’re doing, because, despite that bubble you’re living in, society is not cool about having sex on camera.

Furthermore, it’s a pretty strong argument that says no one of sound mind chooses porn as a career.

Even Seka and Amber Lynn on their shows harp on the fact that once you make this decision it’s irreversible and forever. I got to think they know what they’re talking about.

Similarly, Kiser goes on to discuss the complications and fallout that arise at work once you move on, but the legacies of Stacie Halas and others who’ve tried to go straight have already made that a given.

Another given in this argument is that performers have only lent thought to instant gratification and have forgotten all the consequences that come to bear upon those that love them.

Think of that on Father’s Day next Sunday.