Stefan Avalos writes: You can consider this an FYI or whatever. I’ve been nosing around some of the blogs and came across your site. Thought you might be interested, or at least entertained, to hear the “other side” of the Desi Foxx, “thefoxxs.com” story.

I saw that your website printed her the “Desi Foxx” rantings, so I thought
it best to respond in some way.

I am one of the guys, S Avalos, that “Desi Foxx” is bashing in all kinds of
ways. Here’s the facts on what is really going on. (at least from our side)

Quick note: P Hasson and I aren’t “Porn” people. All of this developed because of a mainstream documentary that P Hasson is producing and directing, in which Desi and Elli are a part.

I helped him on it for a couple days. In the course of those days, I met Desi and – (because I’m an idiot) decided to help her with her endeavor because putting together websites, DVDs etc. was something I was familiar with. Desi had absolutely no money, and no real knowledge on how to accomplish what she wanted.

With an appearance on Howard Stern mere days away, I thought it would be a shame not to have anything to promote or sell. The Stern people were of the same opinion. I thought it might be fun to get involved and thought I could also make a few bucks in the process. I had (and still have) no intention of staying involved with any of it for longer than a couple months.

I thought it would be a win/win for everyone; I leave with a crazy story,
and a few bucks while Desi gets a website, some content, a DVD and the
start of a small company.

With that “quick” intro complete:

1. Desi’s domain, thefoxxs.com was NOT stolen from her. She knows this and has been clouding or simply lying about a lot of things in order to seem like a victim.

THE DOMAIN NAME IS STILL HERS. The reason that the registrant/tech info is
currently in my name is because – well, I am (god I wish I weren’t) the site admin.

I had to change the site from her isp (which doesn’t allow adult content) to one that does. The changeover is still in process, though who knows what trouble she is causing. She already once caused an issue which caused the domain to fall into “redemption”. Currently, I couldn’t change the information if I wanted.

The domain, thanks to her screwing around, is in some limbo state. If I were able to do anything, the first thing would be to make my whois.net contact info anonymous. Makes sense, right? Assuming she doesn’t cause more trouble, (haha) the site registrar info will move to the new ISP. If so, it has to stay there for 60 days. A site can’t be shifted more frequently than that. But the domain name is still hers.

2. Since she is unable to pay the most basic of bills, I actually covered
the costs of all the transfers, the new web space, etc. That’s actually the
main reason that the information is all currently in my name. It had to be,
for billing purposes.

I’ll say it again: I AM NOT CLAIMING HER DOMAIN. I seem to be unable to get
this through her thick skull – or more likely, it is a more dramatic story
for her and her “woes that aren’t ever her fault”.

3. From practically day one, working with her has been a nightmare. She has
only the most basic notions about business and had/has a very inflated idea
about her worth. This has been the crux of many problems. To be honest, I’ve seen kids running lemonade stands with more business sense than her.

4. P Hasson and I invested quite a bit of our personal money and time into
creating the site, shooting content, authoring the DVD, creating merchant
accounts, putting duplication and shipping into place. It’s been a death by
a thousand cuts situation. What was supposed to be easy and not too pricey
has been made neither – by Desi’s actions. For instance: we are the ones
that actually take the processed orders and physically pack and ship those
damn discs out on a daily basis. This is but one thing that “poor stressed
Desi” just hasn’t had to even think about.

5. We are supposedly equal “partners” in this venture. It was not a ‘work
for hire’. Her part of the deal was to promote the DVD and website. Haha.
Funny, eh? Like I already wrote, my plan had been – set it up, work it for a while,, maybe a month or two, hopefully make a few bucks – then split and give her everything. So much for that idea.

6. Desi took a great opportunity (the Howard Stern show) and blew it – in a
way like I have never seen. I have seen bad business moves, but she takes
the cake. Instead of pricing the disc at something reasonable she had very
crazy notions about her value. P Hasson and I made the huge mistake of
staying at the crazy prices she was demanding for a little while.

Unfortunately, rather than a “we tried it your way, now let’s try something
else” situation, this gave her a grandiose notion that she was ‘in control’
of the partnership.

6. When the disc wasn’t selling at her exorbitant price and we suggested
lowering it, she went into orbit; convinced that we were crooks, thieves,
liars and a host of other things. Almost immediately, she went to other
people to try to do a side deal. She even wrote about it on her blog. She
made no bones about cutting us out, in what would have been an illegal and
unethical move. To be honest, we would have been okay with this if she could actually have come up with money to cover our costs.

The word “Ethics” and the name Desi Foxx should obviously not be in the same sentence. How she has used Elli to try to get in the spotlight should have been an obvious clue for me on this. Call me a slow learner. Heck, call me an idiot on this one.

Every single potential “investor” that has spoken with us has run in the
opposite direction when they become aware of what Desi Foxx is really like. If only I had the same warning before I got involved with her
on this thing!

7. When she suddenly decided to “retire”, she left us holding the bag. She
never told us about this; she didn’t give a damn what it would mean to us
financially. We (P Hasson and myself) are into this for money, time and
effort – and she just decided to walk away.

At that point, the “contract”(actually a deal memo) had been breached by her in a number of ways. Now she was simply walking away (or trying to do some deal behind our backs, depending on the day). We realized that we had to take the situation into our own hands and do what we could to recoup some of our money. Lowering the price of the DVD was the most obvious thing. The disc simply wasn’t selling at her prices. No rocket science there. However, rather than let us do our best on that – she wanted to stop everything.

In other words, she was saying, “too bad you’ll lose your money, but I don’t want to play anymore. Oh and you can’t play either even though you bought the ball.” Additionally, she wanted (hysterically demanded, actually) everything that we had created for this venture.

8. It should be noted that P Hasson’s company has copyright to all the
materials on the site, the DVD, the still photos, etc. of her. She is under
the false impression that she has the copyright because of some poor wording in the deal memo we signed (the same one she breached and nullified in so many dramatic ways) Though she does own the domain. the website itself (html code, php code, etc.), the content: the DVD, etc. does NOT belong to her. All the 2257s, model releases, etc. belong to and are in P Hasson’s company name.

9. In spite of her (I believe true) insanity and purely self-centered
intents, we (P Hasson and I) STILL have not done anything illegal. We are maintaining the site as best as possible IN SPITE of Desi. If and when any money is due her, believe it or not – we will actually pay it.

The bottom line is that we are in the midst of a freakin’ nightmare. The
woman is a monster and I wish I’d never laid eyes on her. She is slandering us, she is printing our names. She is causing major “tortious interference” by telling people not to buy the DVD and making claims that there might be credit card fraud involved. She is the worst sort of person – a self centered sociopath who has no compunction about breaking
the law and then claiming others are doing it.

This is not mere obfuscation on her part. She is out and out lying about
many things. I cannot imagine that even in her severely delusional state
that she doesn’t know what she is doing.

The truly frustrating thing about all of this is if we had put together a
business venture that didn’t work out after honest effort, I would be bummed – but I would chalk up the losses as something that simply didn’t pay out.

This isn’t what happened here. From day one, Diana Grandmaison (Desi Foxx)
has been shooting us and herself in the feet. She has been the biggest
single liability of thefoxxs.com.

It remains my hope to soon get the hell away from her and everything “Foxx”
related. Since my name is attached to the domain theoretically for 60 more
days, and since I still am trying to recoup some money, it would seem that
this has another two months to go.

I wanted to also make clear that this really could have been an instance
where a female performer did well. This time, believe it or not, it is not a case of evil men exploiting a helpless woman.

I hope this serves as some kind of warning to others or at least clarifies
some of this idiocy.

So – there you have it. Contact me if you want and feel free to ask me any
questions.

Best regards,